When the opposite of freedom is loneliness

Music was my refuge. I could crawl into the space between the notes and curl my back to loneliness. ~Maya Angelou You’ve been embracing your freedom and relishing your choices. Learning to listen to your inner voice. Creating your own refuge. All that is fantastic. But sometimes, as you step into more active self-love, loneliness(read more)

Big courage = big life.

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one‘s courage. ~Anais Nin For those of you in America: how was your holiday weekend? July 4th always makes me feel a little more courageous than usual, maybe because I am so moved by the stories of American founders. They were so resolute in their vision of how(read more)

Know Yourself: So, how do you like YOUR eggs?

“As you become more aware about who you really are, you’ll be better able to decide what is best for you.” ~ Oprah Winfrey How do you like your eggs?  Do you know for sure?  I loved the movie Runaway Bride with Julia Roberts. The main character’s role resonated with me so strongly, especially the(read more)

How to Snap Right Out of Negative Self-Talk

“When a woman becomes her own best friend, life is easier.” ~ Diane Von Furstenberg Sometimes I am amazed at how women (myself included) talk to themselves – the shaming, the tone, the judgment. We would never talk to a friend or colleague this way, but for some reason we consider ourselves fair game. And(read more)

What Motivates You?

“If you don’t know what your passion is, realize that one reason for your existence on earth is to find it.” ~ Oprah Winfrey Do you know what motivates you? I’m not talking about external things, like money or your fantastic sense of responsibility. I’m talking about your deep, intrinsic, personal motivators. Those things that(read more)

The Human Environment Upgrade

Do not bring people into your life who weigh you down. And trust your instincts … Good relationships feel good. They feel right. They don’t hurt. They’re not painful. That’s not just with somebody you want to marry. But it’s with the friends that you choose. It’s with the people you surround yourself with. ~Michelle(read more)

Who You Were Designed to Be

“I am not afraid… I was born to do this.” ~Joan of Arc If you’ve ever spoken with me, you know that for the last several years, I’ve been very taken with a system of self-understanding called Human Design. It’s like astrology in that it’s based on your birth date and place, but unlike it, it is a system(read more)

Strength By Design

I’ve said it before, and by gosh, I’ll say it again – don’t be afraid to toot your own horn. ~Emlyn Chand Just for a moment, imagine what it would be like if you really COULD promote yourself – with peace, with self-acceptance, with ease. To not feel guilty, embarrassed, or the need to diminish(read more)

A Woman of a Certain Age

For years, I wanted to be older, and now I am. ~Margaret Atwood Do you remember wanting to be older when you were young? I certainly do. I looked very young well into my 30s and hated being mistaken for a younger person. So, this memory makes me smile a bit… I wouldn’t mind being mistaken(read more)

Can You Let Go of Your Security Blanket?

Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny. – Steve Maraboli Sometimes we hold onto relationships because we fear who we will be if we are alone—and fear the experience of feel alone–even for a moment. It’s like a(read more)