Nothing is more precious than being in the present moment.
Full alive, fully aware.
~Thich Nhat Hanh
I have been thinking a lot lately about the word, “Presence.” It’s a beautiful word, isn’t it? I love that it simultaneously refers to the state of being present in the moment and to being in attendance … as well as something subtler, an elegant projection of poised ease in public.
Presence enables you to walk into a room and attract the kind of attention you want to attract. The women I most admire have a presence that draws positive people to them.
But presence is also an inside job. It’s what steadies you in turbulent times, and what you can rely on to calm and guide you in moments of conflict and confusion.
Do you have both outer and inner presence?
Are you able to keep hold of your center no matter what’s going on?
Are you someone people want to work with? Be friends with?
Does your presence inspire trust, excitement, and loyalty?
If you answered no to any of these questions, I’ve got a few tips to help you strengthen your presence.
Genuineness begets presence. After all, if you’re trying to be someone else, you aren’t really there – you’re just the image you’re trying to show the world. People can tell the difference, so just be yourself. Stand in your own energy. Pay attention to yourself – what you desire, what you love and what you find beautiful. Remember: when you act a certain way because you think that’s what is expected of you, you are suffocating your own presence.
2. Be present to your thoughts.
When you meditate, even for 10 minutes, you become aware of the wild distraction of your thoughts. You learn to release those thoughts and continually return to your breath. This process allows you to be more aware of your thoughts both in and out of your meditation time. This awareness is your route to living in the present moment. When your thoughts distract you from the beauty of the present moment, coming back to your breath again returns you to the here and now.
3. Be present to others.
You know how it feels when someone scans a room over your shoulder at a party, or checks their phone continually while having lunch with you? Yuck. They are not present with you. Now imagine how it feels when someone really pays attention. When they listen attentively, put their phone away to remove the distraction, and focus fully on you. Feels wonderful, doesn’t it? Which kind of friend would you rather be? Consciously create a safe space for the person you’re with, and they will bask in your presence.